We all want someone we can trust with the little and big things that we can’t tell anyone, with our vulnerability and hopes and dreams. When this trust is dented or bent, even a bit, everything is broken and falls apart. Have you ever considered your own trustworthiness?
Do you consider yourself a trustworthy person? Besides this question best being answered by people in our lives, what do you think of yourself? Do you think your friends and family think that you are trustworthy, even with the littlest things? Here are a few tips to help you figure this out.
Availability. How available are you? Be present, attentive and engage in conversation. We want to feel like we are being listened to and what we are saying is equally important to the listener.
Are you easily offended? Most times, when people want a listening ear, they have gone through the process and have judged, condemned and made themselves feel as worse as they possibly can. Give them space where they can open up without interruptions and negative condemnation. However, when done, refer to the word on how you can be of help to them.
Are you willing to share with them? No one wants to open up to someone with whom will not share anything with them. Have you gone through the same thing? Have you helped someone through the same hardship? Encourage them through sharing this with them.
Are you dependable? Keep your word. If you say that you’re going to do something, do it. If you say you are going to be somewhere, be there. If you are performing a task, put in the work necessary to perform at your best ability.
Are you accountable? Hold them accountable when they are finally willing to get better. Pray for them, guide them or help them get guidance and help them make sure that they are keeping track.
In the heat of an argument, don’t betray confidences;
Word is sure to get around, and no one will trust you.
Proverbs 25:9-10 (MSG)